The main thing to do when dealing with a tense situation with your child is to remain calm. Nothing that has happened generally is life threatening. Most of the time the child has just made you angry, touching a nerve that you already have had issues with in the past. You have to remember that your child doesn't know exactly what all you have been through, they are just learning, even if you have had the same argument with them on a prior occasion, they do not realize what that means, it is your job to teach them these things and most of the time you teach by doing, not by just talking. It is important to keep these things in mind when you find yourself trying to keep your cool control your problem toddler. It can make a big difference for both of you. NerveWell helps to reduce your depression and anxiety.